Sexpert reveals why you MUST buy your BFF a sex toy this Christmas
We-Vibe's relationship expert Dr Becky Spelman says you're more likely to know what your mate likes
LOTS of women own a sex toy but they're not something you'd normally think of buying for a mate.
Here sexpert Dr Becky Spelman, 's relationship guru, reveals why they make the perfect gift and why you should consider one for your pal - even if she's got a partner...
Best friends share secrets, special moments and a history together and often know more about each other even than boyfriends, husbands or significant others.
Men are often surprised, and even shocked, when they realise that women tell each other literally everything.
There’s nothing best friends won’t talk about so there’s no reason why they should be shy or coy about what gives them intimate pleasure… and they usually aren’t!
If you have a close friend with whom you share everything, a sex toy could be the perfect gift for her, whether or not she currently has a romantic partner in her life.
The O Factor
We all deserve sexual pleasure and orgasms, and scientific research shows that having frequent orgasms is good for both mental and physical health—as well as feeling great.
When we orgasm, our bodies release oxytocin, which makes us feel good, content and at peace with the world.
Higher average levels of oxytocin tend to be associated with lower levels of stress and emotional eating, so if your BFF is the sort of person who frets about her weight and tends to turn to snacks when she is a little overwhelmed at work or feeling down, this could be a surprising way of helping her to keep it under control.
Oxytocin can also help us to sleep deeply and awaken refreshed, which always makes life sweeter.
Regular orgasms are also associated with better physical health overall, and particularly lower levels of gastrointestinal inflammation and less abdominal pain.
Most of all, though, orgasms make us feel pretty much as good as it is possible to feel!
Dr Becky
We all love our best friends and want them to feel good so a sex toy is a genuinely thoughtful gift that has the potential to make a real positive difference in your friend’s life.
The great thing about women buying presents for their female friends is that they already know each other so well they don’t have to guess what they might like.
This will make it easier for you to buy your friend the right toy.
You have similar tastes, so if you find a particular product appealing, your best mate is likely to enjoy it too
Dr Becky Spelman
Is she a fan of modern, sleek technology, or does she prefer all that is cute and feminine?
Does she have a raunchy side or does she tend to be discreet or even a little coy?
Whatever the case, there is a huge range of sex toys available in today’s market, which is increasingly predicated around female tastes, and you will be able to find something for her.
The odds are high that you have similar tastes, so if you find a particular product appealing, she is likely to enjoy it too.
But you do need to tread carefully. Unless you are sure that the gift will be welcome, it might be read as a suggestion that their sex life is not good enough as it is.
First, think carefully about your relationship with him or her.
Do you talk openly about your sex lives together? Are they self-confident and assertive in general, and in their private life?
And, on a practical level, are they likely to open their gift on Christmas day in front of their parents or parents-in-law?
Part of the fun of giving your friend a sex toy will be the look on her face and the conversation and laughs you will share.
MOST READ IN RELATIONSHIPS
So it might be fun to arrange a night in together with a nice meal and a bottle of wine so that you can exchange gifts and enjoy each other’s company—and a lot of giggles.
You never know, she might have bought a sex toy for you as well!
Yesterday, we revealed how to burn extra calories WITHOUT hitting the gym, from having more sex to wearing high heels and sleeping more.
